Monday, 30 April 2018

The Pros and Cons of Dating a Married Woman

Why are you going to visit dating sites for a married woman? What are you looking for? Why would a mandate a married woman? For some people the answer is, in fact, obvious: they want just to get pleasure! There are men who are interested in dating married women, and you might be one of them. These guys do not want to get her away from the family, they are just attracted by inaccessibility and a big desire to eat a forbidden fruit.
Sometimes, it is such a strong attraction when a gorgeous girl appears on the horizon that not everyone can resist it, even if she is married and you have never dreamt about dating married women. Besides, some girls think that they lose attractiveness for other men with a ring on their finger, however, often, the situation is the opposite.

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It doesn't matter whether she is the wife of a good friend, an occasional acquaintance or a colleague, some men cannot help being involved in dating a married woman. The idea of loving a married woman fills such people with a perverted sense of accomplishment and personal triumph.
The theme of adultery is already threadbare. However, it does not become less relevant due to that. Cheating was, is and will be, and you can't get away from it. You can talk as much as you like that this is the essence of human nature, and try to teach the spouses to treat the fact of cheating calmly. It is necessary to say that, nowadays, there are many couples who do that. They tell each other about their love affairs, consult and even look for a suitable partner for their partner. Such a husband and wife consider themselves to be free and advanced people. Probably, it’s true. Nevertheless, the majority of families don’t welcome such an "advanced level." That is, open love affairs with other partners are not welcomed. However, many men are involved in dating a married woman. Anyway, women's cheating has its own specificity.

This beauty, most likely, has an arranged marriage, and it is not necessarily with a rich man, sometimes they get married to hard-working guys who have a promising future. She wants warmth and affection. She may be quite mature, and, at the same time, she can be a luxurious beauty, although, perhaps, her body cannot be called ideal. She will try to attract anyone who draws even a semblance of attention to her because she urgently needs emotional warmth, and she will take it at any cost. Maybe, she makes you even fall in love with her, but this lady will leave you as soon as she gets tired in order to find someone else. If you are going to date a married woman, think about possible consequences in advance.

She is either a bored housewife who has married without any life experience, or a woman who works quite a lot, and her husband doesn’t excite her. Instead of taking a vacation or having a hobby, this lady is looking for a younger boy on the side. Unfortunately, she has a significant drawback. If the first type of married women is proactive, then this lady, on the contrary, will wait for your actions in everything. Sometimes, she can even leave the family for a short time, but then she comes back. Remember that she is married, and she is seeking for a thrill, dating other men.

This girl has just got married. Her husband was probably her very first man, and this naive girl has recently found out that there are also other men. dating married womenhttp://zipansion.com/Ds3BShe loves her husband, at least she is insanely submissive to him, but this is all due to the fact that she has a decent lack of experience in amorous affairs. One talk, one bottle of wine and an easy conviction that sex can be different, and this obedient girl is already in your bed. However, now you should convince her that everything should remain a secret.

You can meet such women quite often. She invested her whole life in the marriage, she did everything for her husband and children. She was once pretty, but she began to watch her appearance less. She is tired of her husband because he has his own life, they live together just because "marriage is a sacred thing." No one loves her, and such a situation depresses her terribly. In a good way, it would be logical to get divorced, but she will never take such a step because this step is frighteningly serious. Instead of that, she is seeking for love on the side, and she tries to make her lover be her new husband without divorce, of course. Usually, such men do not want a serious relationship, seeing a married woman, and surely, they don’t dream about dating a married woman with kids. Anyway, her new marriage is also doomed to failure.

Pros and Cons: Should You Date a Married Woman?

Relationships in which at least one partner is married is always a challenge. Is there a guide to dating a married woman? What will you get in the end: more love or problems? Why are such relationships popular now?
It’s true that such relationships are quite popular in the modern world. Usually, men want to change the situation, they are not satisfied with sex, they have a midlife crisis, or they want to feel desirable, and they are not monogamous by their nature. Therefore, they may look for tips to dating a married woman.


You don’t need to proposу. The first and, probably, one of the most cherished benefits is the lack of commitment to marry. As a rule, the basis for this relationship is not a high sense of love, so the woman will not demand the creation of a marriage union, she has it already.

You will have a diverse sexual life. Firstly, married women have more profound knowledge in the intimate sphere, and secondly, any woman always seeks to surprise and please her lover, which means that each of your meetings will be like the last one: bright, violent, thrilling and unforgettable. Besides, you can satisfy your bold intimate fantasies and try sex in unusual places, role-playing games or sex toys.

She doesn't hover. Conspiracy in these relationships is the main thing, and therefore, she will not pursue her lover. That means that you live the life you want, you do not need to change anything, and you act as you want without fear of claims from her side. She is unlikely to talk to everyone about her “little secret” because she is also afraid of being publicized. Hence, she will try to do everything to make the relationship remain secret. This is already a significant plus.

She doesn’t want to get married. Another positive side of such a love affair is that a married woman does not demand to marry her. Sometimes, of course, it happens, and they demand, but they do that much less often than unmarried women.

She is less demanding. How to date a married woman? In some cases, it is quite easy. It doesn’t matter whether you give her flowers or not, whether you present her a gift for a birthday or not, you can even not congratulate her at all, and it is all right! Even special excuses are not necessary because you just don’t want to raise suspicions of her husband, that's all. In addition, you show yourself as a sensitive and delicate man. You do not call her often for the same reason. The great thing is that she will not make calls without any reason as well.

You have fewer chances to have a venereal disease. The risk of getting such a disease is minimized in a relationship with a married woman. She will not change partners three times a week, and will not have sex with the first comer. Firstly, she doesn’t have time, secondly, it is dangerous. After all, she has a husband.

should i date a married womanYou can easily break up. This relationship is built on mutual oaths and promises, you will have nothing to share, so you will need to have one conversation to break up forever. The main thing that you should remember is that you need to do that with a sense of dignity and tact, remaining a man and a person. If you know about some features that will not allow you to break up peacefully, then don’t ask yourself, “Should I date a married woman?” and better look for someone else.




Possible exposure. You should remember about that. Not every husband will calmly and adequately perceive information that his wife is cheating. In most cases, he wants passionately to deal with the person who has seduced his wife, and not only with words but also with active physical actions. So, either learn a self-defense or how to run fast.

Constant conspiracy. You get tired of it pretty quickly. And if it causes pleasant excitement at first, then it will grow into irritability and discontent.

You are not the only one who has sex with her. It's hard and very unpleasant, especially in cases where a woman is really dear and pleasant to you. Each your meeting and a woman’s leaving home will hurt you painfully.

Problems in creating your own family. If a man wants to have a full-fledged family, then this option will not work. You are wasting time. Some men have similar relationships for years, and they get used to that so much that they are not able to create their own families. To wait when your beloved one will leave her husband is also not the best prospect. Studies have shown that only 7% of women decide to give up their usual life.

Consequences. Besides a showdown with her husband, you can become the epicenter of all subsequent problems for a woman: for example, social retaliation, hysterics on the part of children, concern to parents on both sides. All that can bring a lot of unpleasant moments and worries.

Obsessive mistress. Nobody is immune from the fact that his married mistress will not turn into Fury who will want to break up with her husband and legitimize her relationship with the new lover.

It's not the happy end. It happens that a woman leaves the family for a lover, but, unfortunately, this does not bring happiness. Moreover, disappointment comes. As a result, everyone loses: the woman has burned all the bridges, and it doesn’t work out with the new man. The person responsible for the breakup of her past family feels not the best way, at the same time, it turns out that the lives of at least three people are ruined.

What about an ethical aspect?

Such a relationship is illegal from the moral point of view. If you are free and have sex with anyone, then it's normal, but you should still pay attention to the "occupied" girls who are really the other men's women. To have a relationship with a married woman is an indicator of a total disrespect for the man, and inability to keep yourself within some limits. Among other things, you destroy other people's lives and the marriage of two people. Of course, if she is cheating, then everything is not so good as it may seem. However, all the same, the best way to keep a good relationship is not when two people know nothing about the fact of cheating, and when there is no cheating at all. In any case, someone will tell about it sooner or later, the cat's out of the bag.

Boyfriend wants to keep our relationship secret


Dear Gase,
I have been dating this guy for seven months now. We go to the same church and he is one of the workers there.
The problem is that every time I tell him either in person or via text message that I love him, he just responds by saying, ”I love you too but I don’t want to give you high hopes because of our pastor…what if he says we don’t belong together?”
Also, my boyfriend doesn’t want people to know that we are seeing each other – he wants it to be a secret. I really don’t know what to do – whether let him go or get him to make a commitment.
Gase says…
Why should his feelings for you depend on what the pastor thinks, and how is the pastor going to give his opinion about your relationship when your boyfriend insists on you two dating in secret? These are questions that he needs to answer, so ask him!
There are ‘playas’ in the church too – this guy could be hiding something. For all you know he could be in a relationship with someone else, or even married, and just using you as a side dish. He could also be a serial dater, toying with your feelings until he decides to dump you to pursue his next prey.
On the other hand, if the pastor in your church is the one who decides whether or not couples belong together,it’s possible that he really does love you back but is anxious and doesn’t quite know how to handle things in case the pastor disapproves of your relationship.Whatever the case may be, it’s time for the two of you to do a number of things that will help you decide on your next step.
Number one on the list is that you should sit him down and discuss the direction you want this relationship to go.Tell him your expectations and get him to tell you what his true intentions are, but don’t pressure him. Believe me, no man dreams about spending forever with a woman who pressures him.
But if he doesn’t love you and is just out to have a good time, then there should be no room for such a relationship in the church(and certainly not in your life), because it’ll mean that he’s been lying to you.
Most churches preach no sex before marriage – some churches have what is called ‘courtship’, where the church elders give guidance and counseling to ‘dating’ couples planning to ultimately get married.
If this so then suggests that it’s time you two came out in the open. Seven months is a long time to be sneaking around for no apparent reason. Of course, your boyfriend may feel that your friendship is no one else’s business, but there is a difference between a private relationship and a secret one. Just how healthy can a relationship be if the couple spends more time hiding their love than actually nurturing it?
Do not allow him to use the pastor as an excuse to keep your relationship in the closet. If he truly loves you he will overcome his ‘fears’ and let those closest to the two of you, including the pastor, know about your relationship.
If your boyfriend still insists on dating secretly then he probably doesn’t love you and it’s possible he could be ashamed of being seen with you or associated with you romantically. That will certainly not be a nice place for you to be and the sensible thing to do would be to walk away and find yourself a good man who loves you enough to show you off to the whole world.

Why Keep A Relationship Secret?

When you are in a dating relationship all kinds of questions come up, especially at the beginning.  I get asked a lot of questions about this and so today I have some new relationship advice to offer.

The start of a dating relationship can be a wild time as you are both just trying to figure out all the details. Things like:
  • How/when do you tell other people about your relationship?
  • When are you going to make time for each other?
  • Falling hard for someone really quickly
I’ve been seeing a guy for about a month now. Neither of us have told anyone about the relationship I sort of want to, but he does not.

Why does my boyfriend feel the need to keep our relationship a secret?  Should I be worried?

DAWSON: Some people like to keep a relationship private when they’re not sure where it’s going. Still others want to keep a relationship secret because they are also involved with another person, or not completely over their previous relationship. I’m not sure what the exact situation is with your boyfriend, but he may be using you, or he may even be worried about being embarrassed.
Either way, his secrecy should give you concern. Someone who truly cares about you should be proud to tell other people about you.

Secrecy in Relationships is Cause for Concern

Anytime there is secrecy involved in a relationship there’s a cause for worry. Relationships should be about joy, happiness, and love…not secrecy. If I were you, I would tell him how much you’re enjoying your relationship with him, but how difficult it is to not be able to talk about it with those who are closest to you. Ask him if you could tell your best friend about the relationship, and see how he reacts.
On the other hand, maybe it’s okay to not to push your secret boyfriend to immediately “define” your relationship. Some people feel they have to tell the world when they are dating someone. This can be frightening to guys who are often afraid of calling something a relationship, before they are really sure what it is.
Time and communication are going to be your two best friends in this situation. In the end, if he really cares about you, he’ll want the world to know.
Tasha brings us the next new relationship question:

What should you do when you fall hard for someone and in a really short time?

why keep a relationship secret.insideblogDAWSON: What you’re experiencing happens to a lot of people. It’s called infatuation. Infatuation is the emotional feeling of romantic love. It feels like love. It acts like love. But it does not pass an important test: the test of time.
There is nothing wrong with being infatuated, most relationships start there. But you just can’t build a lasting relationship with looks alone. You are probably feeling a great deal of attraction, even though you don’t know much about him. I would be very cautious if I were you, because you’re dealing with a lot of emotion and fantasy, and not a lot of reality.
You’re most likely living off of the thoughts about “how great it would be to have this person love me and care for me” and the emotional high when he begins to show signs he really cares for you.
While it’s difficult to do, you need to slow down your emotions. It’s a very confusing time, and you might be tempted to say or do things you will later regret. Get to know him as a friend, and let him get to know you.
In this situation, time is one of your best friends, because, over time, you’ll find a whole lot more of who he really is, not what you dream he is. You will be able to make a better decision about whether or not to get more involved with him at that point. In this case, let your head tell you how to act, as opposed to your emotions.

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Why Does He Want to Keep Our Relationship A Secret?

Hey Rachel, First of all let me apologize if I do some grammar mistakes, English is not my mother tongue. ... :D So here's my problem. There's this guy, who I met this semester at college, and we became friends...




Hey Rachel, First of all let me apologize if I do some grammar mistakes, English is not my mother tongue. ... :D So here’s my problem. There’s this guy, who I met this semester at college, and we became friends...Hey Rachel,

First of all let me apologize if I do some grammar mistakes, English is not my mother tongue. ... :D
So here’s my problem. There’s this guy, who I met this semester at college, and we became friends quite fast, and like a month after we met we started to flirt with each other and after all that flirting we kissed. We kept it a secret from our friends.

Our friendship was exactly the same, we didn’t have awkward moments and stuff, but ever since we met and we’re together with some other people, they start making comments like "you two stop touching each other, or things like, okay let’s leave these 2 alone" We just laugh at those.
One day we were at the car waiting for his friend to finish his class, and we were talking about life, and again, we kissed, just kissing, not making out, until my friend arrived. Then the 3 of us when to the movies, and he held my hand the whole movie.

One day he kissed his ex and I completely thought they were getting back together, but that didn’t happen. We talked about this, and he said he did not want to ruin our friendship, that he likes to hang out but, we are like recent friends and stuff, and he was confused, and he did not know what to do. I told him that was a dumb way to escape things. He told me he really wanted to figure out things but he didn’t want to change the way we get along.

We still flirt the whole time, and well I don’t know what to do, he’s very sweet to me. Of course I date and flirt with other guys while he figures things out. But I need a little help to know, I’m really confused about everything, like some people say one thing and others say something completely different.
C, 19.
Dear C.,
I’m sure this guy is everything you say he is: sweet, flirty, a good friend (and hey, maybe even a good kisser). But he is not boyfriend material. How do I know this?
  1. HE KEEPS YOUR RELATIONSHIP A SECRET. In a healthy relationship, there is no reason to hide. When you keep something secret, it usually means you are afraid of someone finding out, or are embarrassed or ashamed about it, or both. This can make YOU feel like you are unworthy of being his public girlfriend. Ask yourself why he would want to keep this a secret. If your best friend were in a relationship like this, what would you advise her to do?
  2. HE ONLY HOOKS UP WITH YOU WHEN HE WANTS TO. Sounds to me like you mostly just react to him. You kiss him back when he’s ready to kiss. But do you get to lean over when you want to? Or grab his hand when you feel like it? In a healthy relationship, you don’t wait for someone to touch you all the time. You get to act on your own desire, as you feel it (I mean, not in the grocery store or anything, although I guess there are some people who can’t help themselves).
  3. HE KEEPS THE RELATIONSHIP ON HIS TERMS. In a healthy relationship, you communicate about what you want and need from each other. Right now, he’s basically telling you he’s happy with the way things are, and too bad for you if you’re not okay with that.
C., the writing is on the wall. This guy is a hookup, nothing more. If you’re looking for love, you’re going to keep getting hurt. You don’t deserve to be hidden or denied. Take your fabulousness to a guy who’ll let you jump him in the grocery store. Or wherever.

Tips For A Successful High School Relationship


It seems as though every teenager in today’s age is always looking for love. As a senior in a public high school, and as a person that has spent almost 12 years of my life in the public school system, I can confidently make that statement. Not everyone is looking, but 99 percent of kids are.
It has always made me wonder, “Why is everyone in need of a boyfriend/girlfriend?” and “Why can’t more people just be happy without having to have someone else?” The second one especially, because I have never seen a faithful relationship in high school last more than a year.
Young relationships always are so great in the beginning, but it always seems to end up with a lot of fighting and bickering. Why spend all of that time fighting with someone, when you can be productive doing something and being happy? It befuddles me, and I see it time and time again.
However, because we are young we are always going to be on the look-out for someone of the opposite sex that makes us happy. Someone that can make us laugh and smile, and someone that we can make memories with. It shouldn’t have to end with fighting and bickering, so here are some helpful tips for making a successful relationship.
First, it is key to find someone whose maturity is on the same level as yours. If you are a quiet and shy person it probably isn’t going to work out dating the loud, class clown. The same goes for someone who likes to think about their future. If the only thing you care about is what you’re going to be doing on Friday night, dating someone who is worried about their life past high school just isn’t going to work.
Second, you have to have someone whose interests are the same as yours. This basically goes without saying, but I have seen many times where people do not follow this one. If you’re a girl who plays in the orchestra and is in the drama club, dating the quarterback and star pitcher on the baseball team probably isn’t going to mesh real well.
As we are maturing and beginning to become more round people, we think that we can overlook the interests that don’t line up, and focus on the ones that do. But, you’re still a teenager and you have the amount of wisdom of a teenager. Don’t set yourself up for failure.
Third, do not let your relationship play out on social media. We live in a society where there is Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, among many others. Posting pictures and statues every now and then is okay, but constantly bombarding your followers and friends with your relationship isn’t going to make them happy, and can easily lead to an argument with your boyfriend/girlfriend or possibly a breakup. Keep social media out of your relationship.
Fourth, you each need to learn how to compromise. This isn’t a quality that comes easy with being young. We want what we want for the reasons that we want it, and normally if we don’t get it, we aren’t going to be too happy. Not having compromise normally leads to arguments, and at our age, arguments lead to breakups. Find some middle ground and be happy that your significant other is happy.
Fifth, you need to learn to pick and choose your battles. All the time, things happen in life that will frustrate and upset us, but sometimes you really have to stop and think if it’s really worth getting upset about or making a big deal over. You need to think before you act. If you don’t, you’ll normally find yourself beating yourself up because you wish you would have thought before you acted. Keep calm and think everything through.
Sixth, do not let temptation get to you. There is an old adage that goes, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” It hasn’t let me down yet. Don’t cheat on someone, period. If you do, you will end up with a bad rap, and no one else with any self-respect will want to date you. If you believe you will ever be tempted to cheat, just stay away from relationships.
These are just some of the thing you must do in order to have a healthy high school relationship. Young relationships are always fun when you’re young, but they are often building the foundation of your abilities to handle situations later in life, especially when you’re ready to settle down and find a spouse. Learn while you’re young, so you’re not questioning yourself 20 years down the road as to why no relationship of yours works out.

5 crucial ways to keep the heat in your long-distance relationship

Ever find yourself wishing you could wake up next to your loved one, only to be hit by the reality that you’re thousands of miles apart?

Ever find yourself wishing you could wake up next to your loved one, only to be hit by the reality that you’re thousands of miles apart? Long distance relationships are difficult, but they’re not impossible to maintain. Someone once said, Missing someone gets easier every day, because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will.” I wonder if that someone ever experienced a long distance relationship.
There are thousands of ways people maintain a healthy, intimate relationship when they live in different places, but here are some of the most common, yet effective methods:

1. Make it a point to tell them how you feel

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While some find it hard to express how they feel, communication is key to keeping intimacy alive in a long distance relationship. If you can’t become vulnerable with your words, through phone or video-chat, it becomes difficult to connect with your significant other. The ideal situation would be to communicate face-to-face, but you should challenge yourself to express how you feel to your loved one daily, in order to keep the lines of communication open.

2. Things don’t have to take place only at one time in the day

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Sending pictures throughout the day of what you’re wearing, a postgym selfie, or Snapchats of what you’re doing,will help your partner become a  part of your day. It never hurts to send a picture of yourself looking sexy either, as a way of keeping things exciting. 
(As always, be careful of who you are sending it too, and what the content of the image includes.)

3. Duh – talk dirty

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If you can keep your partner interested and aroused by the words you use, you’re more likely to spice things up the next time you see each other. Keep it classy, but keep them wanting more.

4. Plan frequent trips, so you can always have something to look forward to

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It’s proven that if you have something to look forward too, you’re more likely to be motivated to make it through the day. Knowing that you get to see your loved one in a few weeks, days, even months will make it easier to get through the separation than when you don’t have a trip planned. 
Take turns visiting each other, and make it a point to have trips lined up.

5. Always make time to send little reminders

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Send each other little gifts to remind the other person that you’re thinking of them. Think outside of the box and consider what would be special for your significant other. Some unique gift ideas could include books, movies, pieces of arts, or trinkets to place around their home.
There are many ways to keep a long-distance relationship hot, so hopefully, these tips will give you ideas that work for you and your relationship. Believe it or not, long-distance relationships can make a relationship stronger, because youbuild on communication, trust, and empathy towards your loved one.

Life ended when my parents found out about my secret relationship

It ended way worse than you think it did.


Two years ago, I did something absolutely intolerable and absolutely horrific. I’m talking about getting into a relationship, of course. 
Being both Muslim and South Asian, it wasn’t acceptable for a moderately religious girl to have a boyfriend. Let alone a confused 16 year old girl. But honestly, I wasn’t looking for a relationship during that time and it sorta just happened on its own. 
I had always been connected to both my culture and my faith. So when I did get a boyfriend, it was kind of like an identity shock. Was I doing the right thing? Obviously not, but I myself was in denial.
I used those aspects of my identity to justify my relationship. I really believed that I, in fact, wasn’t doing anything wrong because dating is normal and everyone else in the brown community does it. It’s our way of bridging the gap between being an American teenager and also being Desi – Muslim. Plus, having a boyfriend was hypocritical, but it didn’t stop me from pursuing my religious duties.
When things starting getting serious with this boy, it was strange but in a good way. I felt like I was finally able to experience being a teenager. I was rebelling against my parents by hiding this relationship. I would constantly lie about my whereabouts without thinking twice about it. 
It was especially thrilling because this boy was a year older than me and he went to a different high school. He was Desi, but he wasn’t Muslim. Even then, he still understood that I couldn’t tell my parents anything and that we had to pursue our relationship in secret. This meant no normal dates. I refused to step foot into a restaurant or the local mall with him out of fear for a family friend or relative seeing us. 
But to be completely honest, I got over the idea of being in a relationship real quick. The only real reason I was in it was that it was foreign territory to me and I wanted to rebel. 
If there was anything I learned from being in that relationship, it was that relationships aren’t worth shit. If it’s not with the right person, being the one you’re going to marry, then it’s pointless. Call me traditional, but go through what I went through and you would easily say the same thing. 
Fast forward to a year and a half to the worst day and experience of my entire life. 
I came home from school one day feeling super happy and ecstatic about God knows what. All I remember was that it was a pretty good day at school.
As soon as I walked in, I said hello to my parents and rushed upstairs to change, do my homework, etc. A few minutes later, my mom walked into my room and told me my dad wanted to talk to me about something. This was strange because I had just said hi to my dad and he didn’t mention anything. 
I immediately freaked out, because mind you I’ve been in trouble countless times. It’s not like I was a horrible child, I was just in that “teen” phase where I wanted everything to go my way. So naturally, I took my phone and deleted any suspicious pictures, text messages, etc. along with Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat. 
I had absolutely no idea as to what my dad had to “discuss” with me. But I wanted to be fully prepared. 
I hid my phone in my clothing drawer as I nervously walked downstairs and into the office room. There was my dad, a dramatic and worrisome expression plastered across his face. 
My heart dropped. It couldn’t be what I think it could be about. 
Me being me I responded with a weak, “Uh, no?”
Then, my dad pulled up pictures on his laptop. Pictures of me and my boyfriend, together. Of us holding hands and pictures of us at homecoming a few days earlier. I was mortified and in complete shock.
I was speechless. Before I knew it, my mom came in and my dad showed her the pictures. She remained quiet and evidently disappointed. Tears were streaming down my face.
All my accounts were on private and I never publicly posted anything, so I was super confused as to how he had these. Turns out, someone had given him screenshots of pictures from almost all of my social media accounts.
My parents were trying to get me to talk, to say something to explain myself, but I just couldn’t. My body, my mind, everything was completely numb.
My dad asked for my phone, so I quickly ran upstairs to grab it. When I handed it to him, he made me unlock it as he searched through my messages, pictures, etc.
 He didn’t find anything, but he still held on to it.
My dad started screaming and pacing around the room, talking about how disgusting and disgraceful this was. That he couldn’t believe that his daughter was involved with a boy. Both my parents were crying, and at this point I was still stunned by what was going on.
If your parents are very unlike mine, you’re probably thinking about how incredibly dramatic this entire situation is. And it was, but it didn’t need to be. But my parents weren’t the chill kind, and because they were so traditional, they honestly thought their entire world was crashing down on them. 
I didn’t say much. I was quietly observing the reactions of both my parents. Was this really that big of a deal? No, it wasn’t. But this made me realize how traditional my parents really were, and how intolerant they were of something of this matter.
My mom was being supportive. She tried to get me to open up and talk to her about it, and that she just wanted to know what was going on. I was too embarrassed to say anything. All I said to them was that I couldn’t break up with him because it simply wasn’t an option. 
I was crying hysterically and everything around me was a blur. I eventually ran up to my room and spent the entire rest of the day and night crying my eyes out. I was embarrassed that they found out, I knew they were judging me and I honestly didn’t know what they would do next. 
For the next few days that week, my parents tried to sit me down and talk to me about it. The conversations were extremely awkward and quite frankly heartbreaking. It was especially heartbreaking to me to think that something as small as having a boyfriend would cause my parents to react like this. 
Then my parents started saying some really serious things. About how they wanted to meet his parents and talk about “us” and the future. My dad would look up things about interracial marriage and it bothered me so much. To think that my parents were beginning to talk about marriage!? Like I had ever thought about that with my boyfriend.
As this was going on, my boyfriend understood that it was time for us to depart ways. At first, both of us were in denial and thought we could work it out. But we broke it off soon after. 
I told my parents and they were relieved, to say the least. I was bitter about it for a while, and I acted like it was the end of the world. Your first heartbreak is typically the worst, and I was too young to understand anything and act maturely about the situation.
My relationship with my parents was awkward for a while. I hated them for being so overdramatic about everything. I barely talked to them after that. It wasn’t until 6-8 months until we were all normal around each other. 
This relationship was hands down my biggest regret just because of the unnecessary pain and trouble it caused to my loved ones around me. It may have been fun for a year or so, but when things started going downhill, it felt like there was no turning back.
My past experience with my parents and relationships is another reason why I’m so hesitant about pursuing a new relationship so early on. So farewell to relationships until I’m ready to get married.